My name is Shai Rotem, and I was born and raised in Israel where I became a certified Surrogate-Partner in 1997. I’ve since then become a member, trainer, and supervisor in The International Professional Surrogate Association (IPSA).

I am excited to share my passion for this healing work with those who can truly benefit from it. I believe that the mind and body are great teachers and my goal is to help you to establish a delightful, satisfying, and rewarding connection with both. In a safe, warm environment, we co-create space for you to achieve a new level of comfort with yourself – and with men – so that you can be healthy, whole, and confident in the outside world.

I believe that:
“Every person deserves to be loved and every person deserves to be in a loving relationship.”

• About My Surrogacy Practice:
As a surrogate partner I help women with concerns or issues around intimacy, relationships, sexuality, communication, dating, and body image. I specialize in – but am certainly not limited to – helping women overcome Vaginismus, and guiding them to improve their abilities in creating healthy relationships with men. Part of the client-surrogate process is that in our work together, we create a mini relationship with a beginning, middle and end. This is always a transformative process for both the client and myself.

My practice is based in Los Angeles, and I also do this work internationally.

Additionally, I lecture and teach about Surrogate Partner Therapy and related topics in graduate schools and clinics nationwide.

• Logistics:
In my surrogacy practice I work with clients in conjunction with a sex therapist. The client sees their therapist for verbal therapy and me for experiential sessions. By seeing both the surrogate partner and therapist the client has a high level of opportunity and support to overcome major issues and heal past traumas.

The surrogacy sessions help in building the client’s self-confidence, communication skills, understanding of sensuality, and physical and emotional intimacy. This is accomplished through exercises in communication, breathing techniques, meditation, relaxation, sensual and sexual touch (as needed and agreed upon by the client, sex therapist and surrogate partner), and social skills development.

You will:
• Feel comfortable being around men
• Feel comfortable with intimacy
• Get a better and deeper connection with your body
• Have a better relationship with your body
• Reduce anxiety
• Increase your sensitivity and body awareness
• Have better sexual experiences
• Release old beliefs and anxieties around sex
• Feel more confident as a lover
• Gain self-love and self-acceptance
• Overcome sexual problems
• Unlock your sexual potential
• Develop social skills to make you a better date
• Address adult virginity

And finally,
This is not just a career for me, but a life’s journey.
It is my honor and privilege to be a part of your healing process. Whenever I’ve received a post card or wedding announcement from a past client to let me know of her accomplishments in love and life, it fills me with great joy.